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She went to prison, I went on vacation – We were both 28 weeks pregnant

I’m sharing some thoughts from earlier this Summer – this post was previously published at Crossmap.com

It was the week before my first Mother’s Day – I was 28 weeks pregnant and headed to California to celebrate a “Babymoon” with my husband. We spent several days relaxing together, dreaming about what life would be like when we would welcome our baby girl later this summer.

That same week, Cherlie LaFleur went into custody at Lancaster County Prison on $1 million bail, accused of attempting to flush her 28-week old baby down the toilet after giving birth in her Pennsylvania high school bathroom, only to end up leaving the baby in the trash can.

She went to prison. I went on vacation with my husband. We were both 28 weeks pregnant.

Having walked the same path for 28 weeks, we may have shared morning sickness or other symptoms, but our experiences were starkly different.

Cherlie LaFleur is a 19-year-old Haitian woman who came to the US following the 2010 earthquake. She speaks little English and had little to no prenatal care, and is in high school.

I’m 30 years old, newly married, and surrounded by people who can’t stop celebrating the new life growing inside of me.

               

Right now, my biggest anxieties center on how I will possibly send thank you notes for the overwhelming number of gifts we’ve received and continue to receive, and at what point my baby will begin to sleep through the night in her beautiful new nursery.

What was Cherlie afraid of? I can’t know, but based on my experience in reaching out to women experiencing unplanned pregnancy, I’ll offer some guesses: how to provide for a child? Her parents’ reaction? How to build a future while continuing her education and supporting a child?

Whatever her fears were, we know the message that our culture was sending her. News reports indicate that Cherlie’s alleged actions occurred just days after the prolife group Live Action (www.LiveAction.org) released an undercover video from a New York late-term abortion clinic, in which a counselor advised an undercover investigator to “flush” her baby down the toilet if it is born alive during an abortion. 

“Some patients will just sit in the bathroom and try and push. Um, don’t do that,” the counselor told the Live Action investigator.

The investigator then asked what to do if the baby comes out while she is at home.  

“If it comes out, then it comes out. Flush it…if anything, you know, put it in a bag or something or somewhere and bring it to us,” the counselor said.

My job at Heroic Media (www.heroicmedia.org) is to connect women facing unexpected pregnancies with assistance and practical, compassionate care. I have devoted myself to serving women like Cherlie, using media to inform them about the help available to them at local Pregnancy Resource Centers across the country. I can’t always physically help these women, but the message we share has saved and changed thousands of lives. I wonder what might have been if we’d reached Cherlie with a message of hope instead of the message to “Flush it…”

Would she have realized that she could still fulfill her dreams?  Could she have found the encouragement and support necessary to face her immediate life challenges in light of a brighter more hopeful future?  Unfortunately, we will never know.

This was obviously a horrendous experience for the newborn, a viable 28 week old child Cherlie left in the trash can, but consider also how demeaning and alienating a message it was to Cherlie herself, that your only hope is to sit alone in a public restroom, deliver a baby, and dispose of it however you can.  This is the same message that thousands of women hear every day in abortion clinics across America.  It isn’t a message of hope, encouragement, or opportunity.

Let’s change the message now.

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This article was first published at Crossmap.com: http://crossmap.christianpost.com/blogs/marissa-cope-she-went-to-prison-i-went-on-vacation-we-were-both-28-weeks-pregnant-3159

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Sobering

I just read something from LiveActionNews and had to share it. Heidi Miller shares a sobering post reflecting on the real impact of abortion as calculated by a World Clock that counts deaths by cause here.

Miller writes:

At the time of writing this, the estimated number of deaths in the world to date for 2012 was 8,898,646. The total number of abortions (not included in the previous number) was 6,298.662. Add these two numbers together for a total of 15,197,308. This means that abortion accounts for approximately 41% of deaths worldwide according to the statistics used by World Clock.

I suspect that there are 2 reasons that many Christians do not take a stand on abortion (aside from wanting to avoid anything so polarizing, which I acknowledge is pretty tempting). I speak from my own experience here, as several years ago I was certainly of the mind that abortion was not worth fighting over because (A) “it’s not that common”, and (B) it doesn’t really impact my life (really? Miss “child of adoption”, you don’t think your single teenage birthmom wrestled with the option of a legal abortion in 1982?).

Well, we’ve established that abortion is quite common.

  • over 50 million since 1973 = common (that’s over 1 million per year, most years since 1973).
  • More numbers that will surprise you (from the PPFA 2009-2010 annual report):
    • Planned Parenthood did 329,445 abortions in 2010
    • Planned Parenthood provided prenatal care to only 31,098 women
    • Planned Parenthood referred only 841 women to adoption agencies

And regarding the idea that abortion doesn’t touch our lives, the Alan Guttmacher Institute reports that 18% of all abortions are performed on women who identify themselves as “Born-again/Evangelical.”

Women we know and love and sit with in church are suffering from the pain of abortion, and many are suffering in silence because they believe the lie that they are the only Christians to have faced a difficult decision and not known where to find alternatives to abortion.

Not to mention our culture! Have you heard about this???? LifeSiteNews reports:

In the wake of a new study that indicates that unborn girls are being targeted for abortion by certain immigrant groups in Canada, evidence has surfaced that sex selective in vitro fertilization (IVF) is being regularly advertised in Canadian news papers.

Be sure to read the full story – it goes on: “Sex selection … puts feminists in the odd position of defending the right of women to decide against female babies on the basis that females aren’t as valuable or desirable as males….How much more discriminatory can you get than advocating the inherent value of one sex over the other?”

Up next: What are we going to DO about it???

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