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An Unlikely Inspiration – Dee Dee’s Story

I’m sharing this beautiful story of adoption from Heroic Media’s blog.

I love this story because I know DeeDee and the love she has for her children. I also know how God continues to call and to use DeeDee and her family for His glory.

I also see hope in this story because it happened over 20 years ago. I think we often believe that international adoption is a new thing and that can lead to despair as we see the challenges that are often present during a journey toward international adoption. But DeeDee’s story reminds us that God has brought many families together through tough and uncertain circumstances, and he will continue to be faithful today, tomorrow and forever.

During the month of November, Heroic Media is celebrating National Adoption Month! Our blog will feature personal stories of adoption from parents, siblings and more. To learn more about Heroic Media’s “Adoption Option” TV commercial campaign and its successes, visit our website.

Our first story is from DeeDee, who was inspired to adopt her second child from an unlikely place – an episode of the news program 20/20.

It was 1990. Paul and I had been married barely two years. The weekend was finally here, and we felt drained.  But we’d preformed a miracle:  we got our 7-month-old baby to sleep, and we were happy to flop on the couch and relax. We turned on the TV, not knowing that the show we were about to watch was going to change our lives forever.

20/20 was airing a special concerning the plight of the Romanian orphans. Image after image of those poor children in those under-staffed, dilapidated orphanages flashed across the screen. These kids had little to no medical care and insufficient food. Their innocent faces were so sad, so scared, so hopeless.

For weeks after viewing that program, I tried to go about my everyday life, but that proved impossible. Out of the blue, someone would ask me, “Hey, did you catch the 20/20 show last week?” or I would see a young child who reminded me of one of the orphans. I literally started having headaches when I would think about the show. God was getting my attention. I never thought myself worthy of being called by Him, but I am sure that is what happened. And I’m also sure that He knows me well enough to know a gentle nudge wouldn’t do the trick. Sadly, I am sometimes like Saul, and I need to be knocked off my horse.

I knew I had to do SOMETHING. But what?  I’ll never forget discussing that question with Paul. We were standing in the kitchen of our humble home. Paul had recently started a new career, and I had quit teaching when our baby, Jennie was born. Financially, we didn’t have a lot. But Paul, without hesitation blurted out, “Well, let’s just go get us one.” He made it sound so simple. For the first time in my life, I was speechless.

Well, that’s what we decided to do, “ just go get us one,” but it was NOT simple. (Due to the collapse of Nicolae Ceausescu’s regime, Romania was suffering. Ceaușescu, Romania’s former tyrannical ruler, and his wife, had recently been assassinated. His rule had resulted in extreme shortages of food, medicines and other basic necessities. The country was left with an abundance of orphans due to this tyranny. And Romanians didn’t want us going there.)

With much prayer and reflection, we mapped out our plan. We attended information-gathering meetings and endured home studies, fingerprinting and background checks; finally we were ready. From the second we decided that this was what we were going to do, I felt like my child was waiting for me in a Romanian orphanage, desperately wanting for me to come and rescue him.

Paul and I were in Romania for almost two weeks with no luck. Nothing was easy there; we’d even slept a few nights on a rat farm.  We couldn’t fathom why God had sent us on this mission if we were not going to succeed. We became frustrated and disillusioned. We questioned God. We prayed that night. Hard.

The next day, we found Victorosh. But there was much to do if he would be coming home to Texas.

Paul needed to get back to Texas, so he flew home while I finished the adoption process, or at least, I tried.  You see, there really wasn’t a “process.”

The Romanians did not honor appointments, time commitments, nor schedules of any kind. Often I would show up to a meeting, and no one would be there. Three hours later, the person with whom I was to meet would appear just to tell me to come back tomorrow. In addition, the Romanians tried to discourage adoptions from happening. I was questioned time and time again, “Why do you want to take away a future Romanian soldier?” “Do you wish to experiment on our Romanian children?” “Your already have a child.  Why do you really want another?”

There were hurdles to jump through that changed on a daily basis. To be admitted into any orphanage, I needed to provide the orphanage workers with cigarettes, chocolates and medical supplies. To get Victorosh, out of the orphanage, the doctor with authority to release him requested twenty pounds of meat as “payment.” To adopt Victorosh, his biological mother needed to give her permission; we knew she had turned down another couple just weeks earlier. There were documents to be translated from Romanian to English and from English to Romanian, and the list of needed documents changed daily. Finding the necessary people to perform these always-changing tasks was daunting. I cried a lot.

Moreover, adoption rules were not set in stone (no pun intended). At times, I felt overwhelmed and wanted nothing more than to drop this adoption plan and fly home to be with my husband and my baby girl, both of whom I was missing with all my heart. But I felt that Victorosh was now my child, too.

However, in all the chaos, God was there. We could never have found our son without Him. We’re thankful every day that we made that journey and trusted that God would help us. I see now that he removed obstacle after obstacle.  We can’t imagine our lives without Victorosh, whom we named Brandon. We’d choose him all over again!

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She went to prison, I went on vacation – We were both 28 weeks pregnant

I’m sharing some thoughts from earlier this Summer – this post was previously published at Crossmap.com

It was the week before my first Mother’s Day – I was 28 weeks pregnant and headed to California to celebrate a “Babymoon” with my husband. We spent several days relaxing together, dreaming about what life would be like when we would welcome our baby girl later this summer.

That same week, Cherlie LaFleur went into custody at Lancaster County Prison on $1 million bail, accused of attempting to flush her 28-week old baby down the toilet after giving birth in her Pennsylvania high school bathroom, only to end up leaving the baby in the trash can.

She went to prison. I went on vacation with my husband. We were both 28 weeks pregnant.

Having walked the same path for 28 weeks, we may have shared morning sickness or other symptoms, but our experiences were starkly different.

Cherlie LaFleur is a 19-year-old Haitian woman who came to the US following the 2010 earthquake. She speaks little English and had little to no prenatal care, and is in high school.

I’m 30 years old, newly married, and surrounded by people who can’t stop celebrating the new life growing inside of me.

               

Right now, my biggest anxieties center on how I will possibly send thank you notes for the overwhelming number of gifts we’ve received and continue to receive, and at what point my baby will begin to sleep through the night in her beautiful new nursery.

What was Cherlie afraid of? I can’t know, but based on my experience in reaching out to women experiencing unplanned pregnancy, I’ll offer some guesses: how to provide for a child? Her parents’ reaction? How to build a future while continuing her education and supporting a child?

Whatever her fears were, we know the message that our culture was sending her. News reports indicate that Cherlie’s alleged actions occurred just days after the prolife group Live Action (www.LiveAction.org) released an undercover video from a New York late-term abortion clinic, in which a counselor advised an undercover investigator to “flush” her baby down the toilet if it is born alive during an abortion. 

“Some patients will just sit in the bathroom and try and push. Um, don’t do that,” the counselor told the Live Action investigator.

The investigator then asked what to do if the baby comes out while she is at home.  

“If it comes out, then it comes out. Flush it…if anything, you know, put it in a bag or something or somewhere and bring it to us,” the counselor said.

My job at Heroic Media (www.heroicmedia.org) is to connect women facing unexpected pregnancies with assistance and practical, compassionate care. I have devoted myself to serving women like Cherlie, using media to inform them about the help available to them at local Pregnancy Resource Centers across the country. I can’t always physically help these women, but the message we share has saved and changed thousands of lives. I wonder what might have been if we’d reached Cherlie with a message of hope instead of the message to “Flush it…”

Would she have realized that she could still fulfill her dreams?  Could she have found the encouragement and support necessary to face her immediate life challenges in light of a brighter more hopeful future?  Unfortunately, we will never know.

This was obviously a horrendous experience for the newborn, a viable 28 week old child Cherlie left in the trash can, but consider also how demeaning and alienating a message it was to Cherlie herself, that your only hope is to sit alone in a public restroom, deliver a baby, and dispose of it however you can.  This is the same message that thousands of women hear every day in abortion clinics across America.  It isn’t a message of hope, encouragement, or opportunity.

Let’s change the message now.

Get involved in sharing hope with women facing unexpected pregnancies – visit http://www.HeroicMedia.com to support life-affirming media!

This article was first published at Crossmap.com: http://crossmap.christianpost.com/blogs/marissa-cope-she-went-to-prison-i-went-on-vacation-we-were-both-28-weeks-pregnant-3159

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Best News Ever!

BREAKING NEWS: Our partners at Bethany Christian Services are on their way to meet with a birthmom who’s 22 weeks along and had been planning on getting an abortion in NYC today. Instead, she saw the Heroic Media ad on TV and called to make an adoption plan. Praise God!

I was adopted at birth (my story is here) and got to spend my 30th birthday at the shoot for this fabulous, research-based television commercial offering women the hope of adoption. Now, God is using this commercial to connect women with adoption resources nationwide!

Friends, this happens daily! We are able to connect women with resources for material and financial aid, parenting courses, prenatal care, adoption resources, medical care and more through the power of media. We are sharing the hope of life with women who may feel hopeless in the face of an unexpected pregnancy. Pray with us and consider supporting these efforts at www.heroicmedia.org/donate

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Adoption Gave Me Life

Here’s a little story about how adoption has given me life – both physical and spiritual. I’m thankful for the gift of adoption and the opportunity to promote adoption and other alternatives to abortion through my work at Heroic Media.

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Day 1 – Perfect Timing

I can’t stop sharing this great news. See below an exciting update on our first-ever National Adoption Month campaign at Heroic Media. This is just the beginning of our national tv campaign on Oxygen. Please continue to pray with us for the women who will be reached by this message!

Praise God!

From http://www.heroicmedia.org/blog:

Perfect Timing – Adoption Campaign Update

11.13.12

Yesterday was the first day of our National Adoption Month television campaign; but for one woman and her child, it was the only day that mattered.

We are thrilled to be partnering with Bethany Christian Services to air “The Adoption Option” nationwide during National Adoption Month. The new ad premiered just yesterday on the Oxygen television network and we’ve already heard about at least 30 phone contacts to Bethany in response to this inspiring message!

Here’s an example of just one of the women who was helped by this commercial, let’s call her “Claire”:

Claire is pregnant and due to deliver a baby tomorrow. She had been planning on delivering her baby and leaving him/her at the hospital after learning that this was an acceptable procedure in Florida. She saw a Heroic Media ad on Oxygen and decided to call for help. Now she is in touch with the nearby office of Bethany Christian Services where she can connect with a counselor and learn more about placing her baby with a loving family through adoption.

 P.S. – We also just heard about an additional 13 live web chats that came about in response to this great message!

You can be a part of this campaign – donate today at www.heroicmedia.org/donate/adoption

 

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Extra! Extra! Adoption Month is Here!

It’s November – National Adoption Month!

Here’s what we’ve been working on at Heroic Media to promote adoption:


I’ll share more about where this ad will be airing soon 🙂

P.S. – Wondering why I care so much about adoption? Read my personal adoption story here.

 

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Pray, Act, Support

I hope these things shock you too. I hope though, that you’ll take a moment to consider what is going on and what you might be called to do about it. Is there an opportunity for you to:

  • Volunteer at or support a local pregnancy help or medical center – find one near you: Heartbeat International’s Worldwide Directory of Pregnancy Help
  • join with others to pray for women who are facing the difficulties and fears that can come with an unplanned pregnancy.

    •  HOLD UP! I have been asked by many people at churches, through friends, about what exactly these prayer gatherings are all about. In my experience, many prayerful people are skeptical of these public prayer vigils. I’ll share my own experience of praying outside an abortion clinic in my next post. But first, I challenge you to get the facts on the 40 days for Life movement:

Check this out – from www.40daysforlife.com

  • There have now been ten coordinated 40 Days for Life campaigns since 2007, mobilizing people of faith and conscience in 440 cities across the United States and Canada, plus cities in Argentina, Armenia, Australia, Belize, Denmark, England, Georgia, Germany, Ireland, Northern Ireland, Poland, Puerto Rico and Spain.

    • 1,894 individual campaigns have taken place in 440 cities
    • More than 500,000 have joined together in an historic display of unity to pray and fast for an end to abortion
    • More than 14,000 church congregations have participated in the 40 Days for Life campaigns
    • Reports document 5,763 lives that have been spared from abortion — and those are just the ones we know about
    • 69 abortion workers have quit their jobs and walked away from the abortion industry
    • 22 abortion facilities completely shut down following local 40 Days for Life campaigns
    • Hundreds of women and men have been spared from the tragic effects of abortion, including a lifetime of regrets
    • More than 2,000 news stories have been featured in newspapers, magazines, radio shows and TV programs from coast to coast … and overseas
    • Many people with past abortion experiences have stepped forward to begin post-abortion healing and recovery

My own path to becoming wholeheartedly pro-life has been indirect. I was always pro-life in theory, but it seemed too complex and unrelated to my own life to be something I should bother with.

Contrary to what I once believed, being pro-life doesn’t mean yelling insults and condemnation at others or carrying graphic posters at a protest. In my life, it means thanking my birth mother for making a difficult but selfless decision, and offering help, hope and options to other women who may feel alone and scared.

Where are you being called to take a stand for life? Will you pray? Volunteer at a local pregnancy center? Financially support a life-affirming organization?

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